2019 has been cordially welcomed. “New year, new me”? I feel a bit too old for this, although it sounds quite appealing. Once you reach a certain age, how much can you actually change? And importantly, do you want to change? By this time you should have reached a ‘satisfactory level of self’ based on your subjective beliefs and values. In any case, this is not the point of this post. I’ve said this before – for me, the start of a new year is really the start of an academic year – September. It feels ‘too soon’ for a year change now – it’s only been 4 months since the beginning of the (academic) year! Anyway, I don’t mean to ruin the spirit. A new start is always a welcome start. It’s the time of year you can reconsider certain things, and decide to stay on track or follow a different path. As a side-note, I think this is actually one of the hardest things to do, and it requires a lot of careful thinking.
Old friends rekindle relationships
A day before New Year’s Eve, I found a couple of old friends at a live music event, and I was not prepared for the goodness our meeting would precipitate in. When I initially saw them, I was debating inside of me whether I wanted to talk to them. In the end, I did sit with them for a bit, and I could not be more thankful for having done that now. Interim piece of advice: Talk to people from your past – they can become people of your present – even if you don’t want to for whatever petty reason, just do it – it’s a ‘hi’, it’s a ‘how are you?’, it’s a ‘what are you up to these days?’, it’s human, and it does wonders.
And this is what it did for me – it did wonders. I spoke to them at the beginning of the night, and at the end of the night they stayed behind just to have a wholesome conversation with me, about the past, about our shared past, and about the time we ‘spent apart’ as well. The reason I was debating talking to them at first was because with one of them I hadn’t spoken for a year, maybe more, I don’t even know! I wasn’t sure of where we stood after all this time. And I guess I didn’t want to risk my ego, as well. My fault in this is that I assumed. I assumed what this person thought of me, what he felt about me… I consider this to be a grave mistake, because the truth of the matter is that I wouldn’t know. And, actually, whatever I thought I knew, was wrong. My emotions and insecurities led to my having a distorted picture of reality. If conversations are not open and honest, people walk off with assumptions and thoughts which may be wrong, and which may impact them greatly.
I couldn’t be happier. Our old relationship rekindled in one night, with a ‘hello’ and a ‘how are you doing’. That was all that was needed. Remember: When you think you’ve lost someone or something, think again. Is that really the case, or is your mind, your insecurities, playing tricks on you?
Inspiration & Motivation
The above gave me a huge push into the new year, and the positivity that resulted from the encounter was the best Christmas/New Year’s gift I could have asked for for this year. I will soon be going into the second term of my studies, and so I need all the inspiration and motivation I can get to push through. At the moment it feels like I’ve got it – let’s hope I can keep it up through next term. It’s the first time in 4 years I’m back in Cyprus for the holidays and feel that I can’t wait to be back in London. This is a frustrating, but, I guess, helpful, feeling, because it won’t hurt when I’m on the airplane back at the end of this week.
The Plan for 2019
What’s the plan for 2019 then? Any new year’s resolutions? Everyone keeps asking this. I think the older I get, the fewer new year’s resolutions I make. I haven’t made any this year. Though I don’t mean to suggest I’m perfect and there’s nothing I want to improve on, I prefer a different route to a new year’s resolution – a more casual promise maybe. I guess for the moment it’s my Master’s degree and I.
But there’s no magic without looking forward to something, without a new year’s resolution, some say. So, let me push some resolutions down your throat for the sake of this post: work more and harder; travel more, explore more; be more focused, pay attention; think, solve; discuss, don’t criticise, help; remember; learn; decide for yourself, and face the consequences of your actions with dignity and strength; be strong, be courageous, be brave; get out of your comfort zone, be confident; close doors, and open new ones; meet new people, create new friendships, foster old ones; set goals, achieve them; be inspirational… You may amend as you wish.
Anyway, there goes my New Year’s post. Remember to keep a positive mind for a positive life, and until next time, blessings for 2019!