by Xenia Makridou

Just a couple short little paragraphs about an aspect of relationships that I just thought of while studying – proof of my mind being elsewhere when I study (haha). It’ll be quick, ’cause I really need to get back to Economics.

Basically, I don’t have much experience on the matter, but from what I do have, I’d like to share something I noticed about myself. Maybe you do it too, who knows? I learn. From each and every person I might have a crush on/go out with, I learn. It’s normal, though, isn’t it? Because you subconsciously try to be like them, so that they can like you when they see that you have similar interests and so on. Or maybe that’s just me. I’m not saying it’s the right way to do it; all I’m saying is that that’s what I do.

My first real crush lasted for about four years and shaped me in every possible way. He introduced me to the world, I guess. I was so incredibly young now that I look back, but he was two years older, and that just made me so much more mature than my age allowed for. He taught me English and generally, the British culture and lifestyle. He showed me how to fit in. My second, absolutely massive crush, for whom I actually turned my world upside down, was four years older and in a place far, far away. He taught me house music, partying, how to appreciate life, and showed me what dreams are made of. And finally, my obsession, taught me how we don’t have to look too far away to find what we’re looking for, because it could be right next to us, and that we don’t appreciate something until we’ve lost it forever.

My lovelife in a nutshell. I don’t know if this is great advice, but whatever you do, learn from the people you feel the strongest for – not just boyfriend/girlfriend material, but friends and family too. They’re there for a reason – to make you better as a person. More complete. More human.